And there’s one more thing I wanted your advice on. And oxytocin dampens down adrenaline. So we shouldn’t be misled by the idea of testosterone, but we need testosterone, some of it to perform and find that strength. What are a couple of the starting ideas that you help people to do from within that toolkit? Joe soldiers and weaponry. And it’s softens, it softens the energy, it softens our eyes, it shifts the hormones in the system. I if I say the days of the week, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday. In this episode Rob Woods interviews the best-selling author, voice coach and gravitas expert, Caroline Goyder. I get up every morning, I train for two hours, I go home, I train for two hours.” And so we talked about what it would be like if she looks at the audience as old friends. In addition to giving the listener time to think and process what you said, it also helps you breathe in, which oxygenates your brain, so you think more clearly about what to say next. She worked at Central School of Speech and Drama as a voice coach for over 10 years before launching her own company. For the audience, it has a different effect. Rob:                 Hey there folks. Hello everyone, welcome back to English With Lucy Today, we have invited a special guest Welcome Caroline Goyder Hello everyone Caroline, can you tell usContinue Reading15 Secrets to Confidence in Any Situation with Voice Coach Caroline Goyder #BeBoldForChange Now I was taught this by the actor Bill Nye, who is a very interesting, very charismatic man. Caroline trained as an actor, and then as a voice coach at Central School of Speech and Drama (CSSD), where she worked for ten years. They will be sitting with the casting director watching other actors come in who are going to be playing with them. Rob:                 Yeah. Believe in yourself. As well as private individuals to support them in speaking to inspire and influence their audiences and have lasting impact in their roles. Caroline Goyder is an author and voice coach, with a lifelong curiosity in the question of how we find the courage to think for ourselves: aloud. What do you mean by palms down? And I often recommend to people you can do it on the tube. Rob:                 Yeah, and I was fascinated by the fact that I didn’t particularly think strength. This physical shift helps you project STRENGTH ahead of WARMTH. And then I came across this really cool maker called George McCollum, who is sitting there. The Bright Spot Club – www.brightspotmembersclub.co.uk/join . Okay, so practicing with the voice. I am going to make sure that the next time I stand up to speak it feels good. Or if they want to run away or hide, they make themselves small. Of course, to do well you have to be present and be yourself rather than run-through an unchanging script. It’ll have a lovely round resonance that will make others feel good. Caroline:           Exactly. But obviously you need to find a way to put them into practice which takes a step on from just being aware of them intellectually. But if you can carve out half an hour just to get physically present, that sets your state up for the rest of the day. To join the 300 fundraisers already in the club or just to find out more go to brightspotfundraising.co.uk. Caroline:           And so we can all flip, we can all change our style. What’s another idea? And you are looking a bit unsure, a voice coach. 6. Doesn’t really matter if you hit the wrong notes, you are just bound to be finding more range and variety and strength in your voice. Palms down gesture often takes you into a more task style. Caroline Goyder works with senior management within organisations. You walk out literally standing taller, and then you’re not doing it on purpose, but the hormones are already helping you feel more alpha. Not Now. It’s natural to put the pressure on you the fundraiser, with unconscious and conscious questions to yourself along the lines of ‘what if I mess up?’ ‘what if I ask for too much / too little / offend her?’ etc. Thanks George. People in corporates, people in charities in particular. Rather than adrenaline. * Why nerves are good* How to overcome blushing or shaking… Yeah, because if you’re a sportsperson, if you’re Usain Bolt, you don’t just hope you’re going to be feeling good on the day. And on one side of the bunk bed, I had put out all of my G.I. Our mission is to provide the most accurate transcripts of videos and audios online. It is a lesson that might surprise you. - All Resources, Communicating, Recommended Ted Talks, Stress Management, Succeeding at work, Video, Wellbeing - Caroline was a voice coach at Central School of Speech and Drama for ten years, and now runs a business that helps people find confidence and calm in the t And I started to find myself at Central School of Speech and Drama teaching people who weren’t actors. I really appreciate and respect the effort it takes to keep on honing your skills. Through simple techniques to build your natural gravitas, you will learn how to express yourself clearly with passion and confidence to persuade, influence and engage listeners. And he said, “I used to think as an actor going into those auditions, God, it’s all about me. We look under the bonnet. Rob:                 And I realized that the Rob that shows up most of the time is a palms up Rob. Caroline:           Which is a very generative, very powerful space. And you imagine talking to old friends. And simply by getting that air onto the vocal folds, making sound, you’re warming it up. Rob:                 Well, that’s very reassuring from the start, because I think it’s contrary to what some of us may have been led to believe. What makes a TED Talk go viral? And I know what you're thinking. Caroline has written three books, her most recent Find Your Voice was released in January 2020. Then you start to realize that actually your job is to help them rather than to get it right yourself. I went to drama school, trained as an actor, and then ended up teaching actors how to have confidence, presence, voice, power, and those skills started to become really interested … other people started to want to know about them. Caroline:           So I started out in acting. Looking forward to it. Finally, thank you so much for listening today. So perhaps that also affects us. Have a conversation. Rob:                 Yeah. The surprising secret to speaking with confidence | Caroline Goyder | TEDxBrixton TEDx Talks Published on Nov 25, 2014 This talk was given at a local TEDx event, produced independently of the TED Conferences. I follow you on Twitter and you sent a tweet recently about just how vital it is to pause. And on the other side were al… And that’s different from a lot of other jobs. Her extremely successful Ted Talk has over 7.5 million views. Caroline Goyder, voice coach. Apart from being present, what’s another trick that you’ve used to help people? 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But it really doesn’t matter because it opens up your voice. As a practical alternative to one-off conferences and courses whose impact can fade all too quickly. Create New Account. It refuels the brain. Rob:                 But if within any typical week, like when you’re waiting for someone or whatever, you’ve got a few moments where normally you might play with your smartphone or whatever, there’s always 10 minutes now and again in a person’s day, practice being present. And that can have a negative effect. Now we live in a really visual culture. To find out more, go to brightspotmembersclub/join. And we’re going to go to those bits. Caroline Goyder – Author of Gravitas. And I can see a couple of really brainy TED faces there. Rob:                 I recorded today’s interview at a fundraising conference a couple of years ago. And the reality is doing some calm breathing immediately before the big deal may help a bit, but really you’re saying it’s a bit late. Caroline:           Well, I mean as a voice coach. Caroline Goyder's global reputation as a speaker and voice coach is built on her warm, engaging, relaxed and highly practical style, and her expertise honed by her work with actors, teachers, broadcasters and the corporate sector. We’re breathing. She has a great Ted Talk, so she’s worth looking up. Caroline:           You’re just warming it up, because the voice is just air hitting the vocal folds, vibrating in the body. Rob:                 We can all do that. If you are going into the room with a very senior person in finance, then you’re going to want to go in with an authoritative credible style. I knew I was a good pilot. Her public speaking exerts an obvious influence over her writing for this book, but it never reads like a transcript from some recent appearance. Email or Phone: Password: Forgot account? The last lesson is the big one. Some elements of relationship fundraising are not easy, especially meetings with major donors, agencies, trustees, corporates, where there is a difference in perceived status and you need to understand and to an extent, operate in their world…. Caroline has written three books, ... Caroline Goyder's global reputation as a speaker and voice coach is built on her warm, engaging, relaxed and highly practical style, and her expertise honed by her work with actors, teachers, broadcasters and the corporate sector. If you found the ideas helpful, do remember to hit subscribe today so you don’t miss out on any of the other sessions, and I’d be incredibly grateful if you could spare a moment to share it on with anyone else who you think might find it helpful. And a mental trick for reducing nerves that Caroline was taught by the actor Bill Nye. or. And certainly in UK culture, there are other cultures where it’s more recognized. It’s oxytocin. And that includes Caroline’s website details and details of the special offer on her excellent new book, Find Your Voice. A group of volunteers might want more connection, more approachability, more warmth. There’s going to be few ideas too. Announcer:       This episode of the Fundraising Bright Spots podcast is brought to you by the Bright Spot Members Club. Check out her inspiring TED talk ‘. It warms up the vocal folds and helps you tune into your playful side. And again, what you’re saying about the pressure on your shoulders to get that ask, that moment, right. It’s something that we talk a lot about in terms of influence. This is Rob Woods and welcome to episode 12 of the Fundraising Bright Spots podcast. And there is a fantastic app called Headspace, which is you get five, I think you get 10 days, 10 minute mini-meditations. Rob:                 Yeah. I assure you, I did feel fear. There are now over 300 fundraisers in the club, so do check this out if you’d like more in-depth training sessions from myself, Caroline, and dozens of other experienced fundraising trainers. Three lessons that I had to learn on the way. We chat about: * What is confidence? Caroline:           So pauses are good for a couple of reasons. Because like this little guitar, it has a string and it has a hitter. It’s a little pit stop in our speech. Accelerating molecules you might say. And I just felt this feeling of absolute shame, that feeling of an audience looking at you, that feeling of judgment which cripples us. We’re at our best in compassion. And I get up a bit early to do that. It may not initially feel comfortable, but if we practice doing certain things with our body, it will kind of then cause us to feel more of confidence or gravitas that might help us? It’s Amy C-U-D-D-Y. SPEAK WITH CONFIDENCE. The surprising secret to speaking with confidence | Caroline Goyder | TED Talks 1. Caroline:           So if you think of when you gesture, have your palms facing to the floor. ‘You already know how to speak confidently…with people you trust, you speak with ease and confidence. So you’re re-fueling, your brain is being oxygenated… and they’re having time to consider what you’ve just said.’. Rob:                 … your physiology, and therefore, there’s probably still be some adrenaline, but to be, if you’re a genuinely caring, because you’re looking out and not in. They may be worried that they’re going to make the wrong decision, that they’re going to give the money to the wrong charity. Caroline:           So another thing that I learned as an actor and religiously use is to get physically present. And they’re skills that anybody can learn. Caroline:           If we take the example of a major donor, they may have a couple of charities talking to them. The more task and strength. My grandmother always advised me to sit up straighter, but she said that to be polite, and that didn’t, no wonder I kept slouching. They cope with this moment totally fine. Sign Up. We can either survive by strength or warmth. I’m a terribly tuneless singer. Here is the news. Caroline:           The first part of the toolkit for me, and this is not always the first part of the toolkit for other people, is to really step into the audience issues. But on that mountaintop, waiting for the wind to come in just right, I felt so many other things, too: exhilaration, confidence. If you need help / sometimes lose willpower, the Headspace app is well worth trying – its free to try and very affordable if you keep going and makes a big difference. Caroline:           And so that idea that yes, you really focus, you might be sitting there half an hour before the meeting rather than going, “Am I going to mess up? And I look forward to speaking to you again in the next episode. I liken it to being on stage, actually. Caroline Goyder encourages us to use our voice as an instrument and really find the confidence within in her TEDx Talk. Rob:                 Mm. I was two years older than my sister at the time I mean, I'm two years older than her now but at the time it meant she had to do everything that I wanted to do, and I wanted to play war. Caroline had her hair and makeup properly done. I knew the conditions were good, or I … Please suggest your favorite videos and audios for transcription. Now you might be wondering what this object is. or. I do some very, very relaxing, grounding yoga, which is just about breathing and getting into the body. It makes them feel anxious. Caroline:           So it’s something about if you do your grounding work at home and then you do your power pose and it comes from a really relaxed place. Practice being present and grounded. That’s where we are going next, and the reason I want to talk about this is because many years ago, I stood in front of an audience this big, bigger at Central Hall, which is by the Houses of Parliament, a really big Methodist space. Or maybe you just need to sometimes work with and influence, important people within your charity, then you know that those differences in status and power can all too easily have a negative effect on how you feel and how well you speak and your results. You are looking at me. In a poll that asked volunteers to rate TED Talks, there appeared to be a correlation between the number of hand gestures a speaker made and how well people rated their talks. And I can tell you they really do work. Caroline was sharing various techniques she teaches her clients to reduce your nerves and increase your personal presence. Trying to reconcile a couple of different pressures on them. Am I going to be self-conscious?” Think about this simple question, “How can I help?” And what he said about that is it takes us into compassion. Listen to the MP3 Audio here: The art of being yourself by Caroline McHugh at TEDxMiltonKeynesWomen TRANSCRIPT: So, the chances are you’ve looked in at least one mirror today. It doesn’t matter if you make some bum notes. That is a big lesson in here. Recommended length is no longer than 30 minutes. Now when actors are playing character, there’s a whole raft of options to play with. She now runs a business that helps people find confidence and calm in the theatre of life. Caroline:           And if you can put yourself into the shoes of that person, juggling that risk. We cover several different ideas, including how to make a particular physical shift that has an immediate impact on your gravitas. And then there are other people, not so confident, and it stops them from speaking this moment. There are three more interviews with Caroline, as well as dozens more training films made by Rob Woods, in the Bright Spot Members Club. That’s a big one, isn’t it? She now runs a business that helps people find confidence and calm in the theatre of life. And these are really straightforward binary archetypes. You know, there are people who are confident. It makes them feel that maybe they are not up to it. So yeah, that moment of pressure is a kind of tough performance. There are many things in including the pressure put on you by yourself or by your colleagues, because if this is a big deal and probably several people in your charity know about it. And I looked out across the room and I said in my big voice — coach voice — there wasn’t this much wind at the time I have to say – and I said in my big voice coach voice: “Can you hear me at the back?”. Please feel free to donate towards this mission. It is this moment, isn’t it? Load More Posts. But it is this moment — this moment where our worlds are colliding right now. Terms & conditions apply. I’m looking at you, and you look like a really nice bunch … I also thought I am going to do it differently next time. The audience, it gives them time to think about what you’ve just said, so you’re re-fueling, your voice is being re-energized, your brain is being oxygenated, they’re having time to consider what you’ve just said. Today on the podcast, I have the pleasure of speaking to Caroline Goyder who is a voice coach, and she’s the author of the new book “Find your voice.” She is also a Ted x. I mean there’s all sorts of research by a scientist called Amy Cuddy, and she talks about something called the power pose. And you look really friendly enough, so thank you! It’s all designed to help you learn, enjoy your job, and raise more money. So, so literally you will feel calmer. They overcome limiting habits and anxieties to become confident, compelling leaders who get results. Rob:                 Yeah. Singing is the way to a great voice. Pete Mockaitis Caroline, thanks for joining us here on the How to be Awesome at Your Job podcast. The diaphragm is the key to your confidence. And within this little chest of drawers — this rather big, manly chest of drawers — are three secrets to finding confidence within. Caroline Goyder is an author and voice coach, with a lifelong curiosity in the question of how we find the courage to think for ourselves: aloud. And so in advance of the meeting, to deliberately ask oneself that question, and then even the half hour before, if you’re not as relaxed as you’d like to be, just keep going, “How can I help this person today?”, Caroline:           Exactly. Speaker and her Ted Talk has had 7 and a half million views which is really incredible. But what’s useful about seeing these moments in this way is it can help us prepare ourselves more deliberately, in the same way that outstanding sports people or musicians do. 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